Love Needs A Little TLC

Previously, I admit it. I mean this entire blog is my testimony. I haven't seen what a good love is. I can only use what not to do as a guideline as to what I should do. And have what I seen be the things that I know I want and deserve. The things that are the complete opposite to what my unfortunate eyes have witnessed before.

The few principles, well, important factors to me when it comes to "love" and defining it, are:

firstly: Love is love. It's what we admire. What we all want. It's never wanting to stop touching that one person because you never know when it could be the last.

I couldn't count on both my little hands how many times people have been here and gone within a second. Whether that be through country departure, death, surprised abandonment, abuse -

Loving someone to me, is being there at their worst. Every cold, emotionless or emotional filled day, should be the ones that build us. Being a partner of someone who may seem slightly out of character, or out of direction, doesn't mean you should add to the list of people who have left.

Loving someone is holding their hand through the muck because you never know if one day your world may come crashing down. and maybe the one who didn't have it all figured out at first, eventually do so and be the only one there beside you.

Love is returning the support and compassion between one another. Empowering each other, even on the darkest of days, to be the person that we know that they can be.

That their voice, that their tears, that their dreams are in fact something that matters.

secondly: Love is hard. There is nothing easy about matching your lifestyle that you are so comfortable with, to someone else's.

Sometimes we do or say things that don't necessarily make sense or are comfortable to our ears.

but love is not belittling. love is not intentionally mentally or physically hurting someone.

I've seen many men physically and emotionally abuse those around me. Sometimes the mental ones are just as powerful as the physical.

Everyone has a right to anger and to be angry. Though, what would curse your soul so much that you'd want to call the person you hold close to your heart, the same words you'd call your worst enemy?

Love is all the good that you have inside you. Sharing it with that other person that won't stop doing the same in return. Hate, and entitlement and disregard is for those we don't like. Those that truly try to destroy us.

and thirdly: Love is equal.

Not one is better than the other. You see the strengths and qualities within each other that you didn't realise you had or maybe forgotten.

You don't intimidate or stand over one another's achievements. You use it as ammunition to those who ever try to tear your castle walls down.

Why? Because love in an empire that you two had built.

Golden gates, bright-brick walls, securing the two of you solely. In the protection of one another. In the trust of one another. Even in anger, the net when one falls until both are saved completely.

Two people stand beside one another, not one in front, one behind.

I don't know much about love but I know this.. Love is not hurt. That's hate.

Trust is not lying, that's dishonesty.

Loyalty is not leaving, that's abandonment or running away.

and bloggers that leaves me with one last question for you all tonight.

Why resist sharing your soul if you truly want to be together?
everyone deserves a right to true happiness.


& may your loved ones, stay your loved ones, forever,

God bless.